“I’m not actually craving the food. I’m craving relief, freedom, and a break from the pressure of always doing the ‘right’ thing.”

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I had a really interesting conversation with a client recently that I think many of us can relate to.

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She shared that one of the biggest challenges she’s been working through is her relationship with ultra-processed foods. Not because she doesn’t know they aren’t the most nourishing choice, but because those foods represent something bigger.

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She said:

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"I still connect those types of food to avoiding a negative emotion. The increased sugar or fat makes me feel kind of rebellious when I’m usually ‘good.’ I just need to feel out of control for a moment. Doing the best thing for me all the time gets boring."

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This was a REALLY powerful realization.

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Because sometimes food isn’t just food.

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Sometimes food becomes the place where we finally let ourselves relax.

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Unbutton that super buttoned up life.

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When you’re someone who is constantly trying to do the “right” thing — hitting your workouts, eating well, being productive, taking care of everyone else, staying on top of responsibilities — there can be this underlying pressure of always having to have it together.

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And then food becomes the one place where you get to say:

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"Whatever. I don’t have to be perfect right now."

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It becomes the release.

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And then it becomes a cycle.

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The tricky part: if food is your only source of freedom, comfort, or rebellion

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If food is your only source of freedom, comfort, or rebellion, it starts carrying a lot of weight. It becomes a powerful source of instant gratification.

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So the question becomes:

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‍How can we create that same feeling of release somewhere else?

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Not because you need to avoid certain foods forever. Not because enjoying a cookie or ordering takeout is “bad.” But because you deserve to have more than one place in your life where you get to let go.

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What feeling are you actually chasing?

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The next time you find yourself reaching for food when you’re not physically hungry, get curious.

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Are you craving:

• comfort?
• a break?
• fun?
• a reward?
• a moment where nobody needs anything from you???? (imagine)

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The food might be the action, but the feeling underneath is usually the thing we’re really looking for.

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Where else can you practice “letting go”?

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If you feel like you’re always in responsible mode, start creating small moments where you’re allowed to just be.

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Maybe that looks like:

• going for a walk, without tracking it
• reading something, just for fun
• watching a show, without multitasking
• dancing around your kitchen while you cook
• calling the friend who makes you laugh
• doing something creative without needing to be productive

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It doesn’t have to be this big epic thing like a silent retreat in the jungle.

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It’s just about reminding yourself that life isn’t only about performing and achieving.

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Give yourself permission before you need rebellion

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A lot of “out of control” moments come after a long period of being overly controlled.

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When everything feels like a rule, eventually your brain wants to push back.

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So instead of waiting until you feel like you need to rebel, practice giving yourself permission regularly.

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Permission to rest.

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Permission to enjoy things.

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Permission to make choices because you want to, not because they are the “best” choice.

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Because the goal isn’t to create a life where you never eat the fun foods.

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The goal is to create a life where food doesn’t have to be your only escape.

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A question to reflect on

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Where in my life do I feel like I have to hold it all together? And where can I create more moments where I can just be?

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Sometimes the biggest breakthroughs with food happen when we stop asking, “How do I control this craving?” and start asking, “What is this craving trying to give me or release from me?”